Tante Girang Online

Online dating is all about saving time and weeding out the duds as quickly as possible. By looking a person’s profile, pictures, and messages, there are a few key warning signs that can indicate deal-breakers or duds. Here are a few examples:

1.) He/she presses too hard for personal information. Even if the person with whom you’re speaking isn’t a scam in disguise, pressing too aggressively can indicate that there might be problems in the future if he/she doesn’t properly respect your space.

2.) He/she becomes insecure if you don’t respond fast enough. I’ve had a few experiences with this: the person with whom I’m writing becomes upset if I don’t respond immediately to the email, even if it has only been a few hours. Although I do tend to be fairly prompt when returning messages, I can’t always respond immediately. On occasion, I’ve had a potential match become extremely upset and take it as a form of rejection. The insecurity expressed over the matter essentially killed any interest I might have had and I ended it immediately. If someone is already insecure over a fairly irrelevant matter such as this, it may indicate that they have deeper issues, aren’t ready to date, are clingy, or will drain you of energy with their insecurities.

3.) He/she is inconsistent about the information he/she provides. If someone is constantly changing their story, there might be something deeper and darker going on -- something probably not worth your time. Stay away from this one.

4.) You already know that he/she has some of your deal-breakers. You are your own best judge. If the person in question has some qualities or behaviors that you’ve already deemed unacceptable, don’t waste your time. You’re not going to come around the problem and he/she is not going to change. Better to move on while you’re still uninvolved!

5.) He/she pushes you to meet before you’re ready or wants to meet in a way that makes you uncomfortable. You should always be safe and within your element. If someone is pushing you to meet before you’re ready, it could signal that they’re after something other than what they say.

6.) He/she comes on way too strong! It’s okay to be excited about meeting someone new, but if the person starts to express interest in a way that is clearly too intense given the status of the new relationship, it’s time to bail. This type of person can often become quickly attached and dependent on you long before you’re ready to make any kind of commitment.